3 ways to kick overwhelm to the curb

Updated: Mar 15, 2020

by Keira Barr, founder of Resilient Health Institution

In these crazy times of juggling work, family, friends and trying to take care of ourselves, I know it can feel like there’s not enough time in the day to get it all done. Who’s with me on this one? (Don’t worry I can’t see you but I have a feeling you just raised your hand!)

Believe me, I am right there with you, which is why I wanted to share 3 things I have found most helpful to get out of the overwhelm and into action so you can start next week with a bang!

1. Shout it out!

If you don’t care what the neighbors think, (they’re too nosy anyway right?), shout it out from the rooftops what it is you're struggling with. If you are not down with shouting, then tell a friend, your significant other, your co-worker, your dog or even the person in line behind you in the grocery store (if you needed a juicy ice-breaker, this is a good one).

You may be thinking why in the world would I do that? Isn’t that just complaining?

Nope! Nada! Not even one bit! You are sharing. You are releasing that pent up frustration and energy out of your body AND you are enrolling the people that love and care about you into your world. Remember the saying, “Caring is sharing?” This is no exception.

If you hold it all inside you will explode. When you say it out loud, it diffuses the pressure... it becomes something separate and apart from you and it enables yourself as well as others to help you see all the goodness you do have going on, which will give you the time and energy you need to break down the obstacle into bite size pieces that you can act on.

2. Write it out!

I’m all about giving credit where it’s due, so I have to give a shout out to my badass gal pal Jen Gottlieb who shared this gem with me so that I can now share it with you. Write out your “BadAss List.”

Oh yeah, there is no doubt about it, you are a BADASS and creating a list that highlights your assets will help you remember exactly how awesome you are in moments you are feeling overwhelmed.  

Wondering what to put on your list? It can be big stuff to the smallest... it ALL counts. Do you give the best hugs? Do you organize drawers like a ninja? Did you kill it on your last project? Did you speak on stage despite being scared out of your mind? Step into a new role? Step out of a toxic situation?

Write it all down...tap into all your senses as you recapture those moments. How did you feel in those moments? What did it sound like? What did it smell like? What did it look like?

Really allow yourself to visualize those moments again so that when the stress and overwhelm start to swoop in with a vengeance you pull out this list and use it like your superpower shield to dismantle them, because you can put yourself right back in one of your BADASS moments and experience your greatness again NOW!

This will give you an immediate boost of energy and help you get back in the game and off the bench of analysis paralysis.

3. Move it out!

I was going to say, dance it out...but not everyone shares my love of a good dance party in the kitchen. The kids give me grief every time I whip out my disco ball (secretly I know they love it).  

That said, if dancing isn’t your thing either, no worries I just want you to move in a way that feels good to you. Because one of the quickest ways to get out of overwhelm is to switch gears... literally.

Moving your body from walking, running, biking, vacuuming, sex (you bet this counts), chasing after the kids, your pets... it’s one of the fastest and most efficient stress busters EVER!


It pumps up your endorphins, physical activity bumps up the production of your brain's feel-good hormones, called endorphins (like serotonin and dopamine).

Its meditation in motion. Doing anything physical requires your focus and attention and brings you totally into the present moment which means “bye-bye” stress.

It boosts your mood. Exercise amps up self-confidence, it can relax you, and it can also improve your sleep (which often suffers due to stress, depression and anxiety). Moving your body daily can ease your stress levels, give you greater command over your body and catapult you into taking action because you’ve already got the momentum.  

Try one, two or all three of these things this coming week and let me know how it goes! I love sharing in your wins and celebrating them with you.

To your resilient health!!




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